Beabe Thompson

It’s Autumn! Time for We 50 Somethings to Reinvent Ourselves

Well, technically it’s not Autumn until the 22nd of September, but let’s just stretch that a bit.

Around the United States we should start seeing lower temperatures soon, if not already.  The kids and grandkids are back in school, and our lives have been kicked up several notches in demands on time.  It may or may not be an easy time to try it, but how about taking care of ourselves now?  Introduce a walking schedule a few times a week, cut back on those nachos and margaritas, double latte’s and lose a few pounds?

I know many of you are shaking your heads at me, but sisters and brothers, I’m working on what I’m preaching.

At the beginning of this summer I did a sleep study and found out that I had sleep apnea.  While not going into specifics, let’s just say it’s been a frustrating experience.  What did come out of seeing my regular doctor then specialists is I’m fat.  Obese.  Out of shape.  I accepted that in the kind manner those doctors told me, but I didn’t feel fat, and didn’t think it really was making sleep that hard to accomplish.  Yes, I was sometimes shocked to see my reflection in a store window, and mirrors, but was I really fat?  The stories we tell ourselves.

The last trip to a sleep specialist spelled it out to me.  I was obese and wasn’t getting enough oxygen at night, and we, I, had to do something.  It was hard enough getting on the scales in that office, knowing I was pushing 200 pounds on a small 5’4″ frame.  I fought back the tears as I listened, and then walked out to my car, angry with my doctors and the insurance companies, angry with my husband who’d forgotten to come to the appointment with me, and lastly furious with myself for letting stress eating push me into obesity.

I ended up at Willowbrook Mall, looking for the Lush store there, and ending up walking almost the entire Mall in frustration.  Never found it (it was in the Macys), but found that my restless walking had made me feel a lot better.  Hell yes I was still angry, but calmer.  I went and sat in my car and ruminated like I usually do, then drove myself to my neighborhood Weight Watchers and signed up.  Felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders by admitting I was obese, pun intended, and had to do something about it.

Later went and signed up for Jazzercise, and willingly put those extra large yoga pants on, and started learning the routines.  There are a lot of nonjudgemental women taking those classes, friendly, supportive, and each on their own path to fitness and health.

Started walking my hyper little dog who loves nothing more than to literally drag me for 45 minutes through my neighborhood.  I literally can get the same amount of exercise from that dog as Jazzercise.  Last week I actually did push ups in body sculpting class, something I hadn’t done since high school.

12 weeks have gone by since my epiphany.  While I haven’t quite lost ten pounds, I’ve lost almost three inches in my waist, and can see a difference in energy levels and the way clothes fit.  While exercise and weight loss aren’t going to make me look like a twenty something again, I feel younger and healthier.  Yes, I’m still obese, but I’m giving myself kudos for what I’ve accomplished, and have a goal to get me through Halloween Candy, Thanksgiving dressing, and Christmas stockings.  I want to look at Holiday pictures and not want to drown my sorrows in food.

So sisters and brothers, I challenge you to join me and put those Keds on, grab the dog’s leash, and get out there and enjoy the Autumn days to come.  Get moving, grab the hands of those you love and take them for a walk.  Reinvent yourselves this Autumn and leave the guilt and excuses behind.  Take care of yourself and love the person you see in the mirror.

If you’re already doing this, let me know.  Leave a note.  Let’s hold each other up, 50 Somethings, and be healthier and happier in the Autumn days to come.

Beabe

How We Got Our Children to Love the Arts, or Pardon Me While I Yammer…

Please bear with me as I yammer for a while…
I was extraordinarily lucky as a child. My extremely right brained artistic mother made sure that I was exposed to as much classical music, dance, and art that she could afford on her north Louisiana teacher’s salary.  This was especially difficult since we were probably under the poverty level for most people in the US.
Ballet lessons to coax my extremely uncoordinated body into gracefulness were started at age 5, which was a waste of money on me, despite my idealistic dreams of being a dancer. (There was a reason my LSU ballet teacher told the class I was the worst she’d ever seen!)  One particularly defining moment came when I had measles, and could not read or watch television, but Mother played me music hour after hour. I was seven, and laying in the dark, listening to classical music wash over me like the ocean. An experience that I’ll never forget. It was then I “got” music, and have never looked back.

She scraped money together for piano lessons and an extremely expensive trumpet, and her father took me to church choir practice and church. Those three things got me into middle school and high school band, and an award winning high school choir. That high school choir took me to Louisiana State University, where I sang in a women’s choir, and what was then the university choir. All auditioned choirs, the framework built upon my mother and grandfather’s love of music, and the gift of their time and money.

My husband was gifted the love of music from his mother who loved the piano. He played the trumpet in high school too. When gifted some money for college, he took part of it and bought a banjo kit, the first of many, many banjos. A professor at Fredonia State University in New York, who to this day builds and plays banjos, encouraged him. When he finished at Fredonia, he went on to a Masters in Geology at the University of New Orleans, where the rich tradition of music fed his passion and introduced him to other talented professional and amateur musicians. He played for years with Hazel Schlueter’s Ole Timey String Band, Delta Ramblers, at JazzFest, and at local venues and festivals, all the while working in the oil industry.

When we married and had children, we found money for Kindermusik lessons, then encouraged our boys to follow the Texas school tradition of choosing choir, band, or orchestra in middle school. With family memberships to The Houston Museum of Natural Science and The Museum of Fine Arts, Houston, we made several trips to see dinosaurs and fine art, with my boys gifting me trips on special days. Whether it was the Lord of the Rings exhibit, Pompeii, or Scouting badge classes at HMNS, we went as a family and shared.

Our youngest was encouraged to audition for a children’s choir in Houston because of his high and exceptionally pure voice. Eldest son excelled in middle school choir, then high school under the training of Deidre Douglas at Cy-Falls High School, attaining State for his bass voice two years in a row before graduating. Youngest chose orchestra and is now president of the Cy-Falls High School orchestra program.

This Fall he’s taking art history, and a whole new perspective is opening for him. The point I’m trying to make is this: we had to be invested in the Arts to teach our kids how to love them. Our gifts of time spent with them going to museums in a city rich with the Arts.


When my youngest son plunked a colossal art history textbook down on my kitchen table a week ago, my heart sang with joy. What I would give to be able to call my mom and tell her that the seeds she planted are bearing fruit with her grandchildren. That her art education in Chicago and New Orleans may not have made her the world class artist she dreamed of but that she’d given us a gift that never expires, never needs batteries, never ceases to create wonder and seek beauty.
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